Before I could guide women through this work,
I had to live it myself.

I had to heal the places in my body that no longer knew how to feel pleasure, question everything I had been taught about relationships, and expand my capacity to receive the kind of love I had always longed for.

For years, I carried the imprint of sexual trauma in both my body and mind. I had been molested at only three years old, and at fourteen, my first experience of sex was being rapped by a 21 year old man. Long after those experiences were over, my cells were still carrying what had happened to me.

As I grew older, pleasure during sex was a foreign concept to me. I had learned to brace, hold tension, disconnect from my body entirely, and oftentimes feared intimacy and the pain that would follow.

My heart could know I was safe with my partner, but my body hadn't learned that intimacy no longer meant danger.

So I began the deeper work.

To cultivate safety inside my own body again, slowly reconnecting with sensation and pleasure, and reclaiming the power that was taken from me as a child. 

And through this journey, self pleasure and sexuality became a place of deep connection, aliveness, and eventually, profound healing.

one day I got still enough to finally ask myself:

Those questions unraveled my entire world.

I looked at beliefs I had carried for decades, all the ways I had abandoned myself to keep relationships, the places I over gave, stayed silent and confused being needed with being loved.

The ways my old wounds quietly influenced who I chose, what I accepted, what I feared, and what I believed I deserved.

I examined all of it. Piece by piece I started dissecting and peeling back all these layers that had been placed upon me.

Until I finally got to the core of me.

And from that place, I was able to finally see MY true desires.

Because there was something I had not yet fully understood.

That when I finally called in a man who could hold all of me, who is grounded, devoted and centered within himself. Who didn't need me, but chose me.

There was a new level of expansion my nervous system had to move through in order to actually receive this man and his love. Even though my heart knew this was the kind of love I had been asking for, my entire system was sounding every alarm it ever had.

And what I came to understand, is if your system has learned to associate love with uncertainty, intensity, earning, proving, chasing or emotional highs and lows, then secure love can initially feel almost... too quiet

That's where my greatest work began. It wasn't enough to know what I wanted, I had to become capable of actually being able to receive it.

I had to expand my capacity for the very things I had been asking for.

I had to teach my system that I did not have to sabotage something simply because it was unfamiliar.

And this is where my 4 part framework was born and where my greatest journey unfolded.

my four part framework

My work is informed by years of personal exploration, professional training, and hands-on experience in the worlds of somatics, sexuality, relationships, subconscious transformation, energy work, and embodied healing.

My training and certifications include Trauma Informed Somatic Bodywork,  Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) & Parts Work, Shamanic Womb Healing, USUI Holy Fire Reiki Master and ongoing training through Layla Martin's VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching methodology.

But I believe credentials are only part of what makes someone powerful at this work.

For me, the deepest education has also come through living it—through relationships, motherhood, entrepreneurship, heartbreak, healing, sexuality, nervous-system work, rebuilding my relationship with myself, and continually putting the principles I teach into practice in my own life.